When you’re going through a separation, many children have problems adjusting to the new circumstances of their lives. Boys in particular react differently to the life changes before and after a divorce, and they can become especially difficult to handle. This is most common in male children if the mother in the marriage gets main custody. There are many myths associated with divorce and male children, but here are a few of the facts.

Your Child May Not Let You Know if He’s Upset

Male children often express emotions in a vastly different way than female children. While a female may come to you or her other parent for comfort and kind words, male children often do not, as they do not wish to appear weak or in need. Sometimes a parent has to work very hard to get his or her sons to open up to them, and in some extreme cases, counseling may be the best option.

Boys Do Cry When They’re Upset

Time and time again, you hear that boys over the age of six don’t cry and have learned that tears mean weakness. This may seem true, especially if your son is the strong, unemotional type. However, most boys are going to cry in private places, as they do feel the grief associated with a divorce just as deeply as other members of the family. If you catch your male child crying, it’s important to let them know they don’t need to be ashamed of how they are feeling or their emotional reaction, and that they are normal and always welcome to express themselves.