1131983_rose_on_iceIt’s all too easy to start attacking your ex when they’ve wronged you in some way. Emotions are running high and it can be difficult to keep those emotions from overpowering your common sense. We also have a lot of examples of this kind of behavior in the people we idolize, such as celebrities. You cannot walk more than a few feet in a market without seeing a tabloid that has a headline that says something nasty about someone’s ex-wife or ex-husband that the other person said.

But just because you don’t have the celebrity status doesn’t mean that you don’t have to be appropriate when it comes to speaking about your ex. If you use social media inappropriately, or you talk to your ex in a manner that could be used against you in court, you better bet that it will be.

However you’re feeling is completely understandable, and there’s no shame in feeling that way. You are probably angry about what’s going on, not to mention upset and angry for your kids if they’re involved too. Maybe your ex is insisting that your children spend time with him and his new lover, and that just pushes your buttons. Maybe you’re still “friends” with your ex-wife on Facebook and you post pictures you know will ignite their emotions. But resist as much as you can, and send those pictures straight to the trash.

Snide commentary, tongue in cheek comments, and doing purposefully hurtful things to your ex at the end of the day is just going to make you feel like a bad person. And really, no matter what happened and why you’re divorcing in California, you don’t have to sink to that level. Remember the age-old saying: if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.