It’s tempting, isn’t it? You and your ex break up, and you want to tell it to all on your blog. It can be difficult to wrangle yourself in and say anything beyond the facts of a divorce (namely, that it’s happening), especially when you have tons of fans you know would understand and be on your side. While it’s good to get some of that rage out, consider carefully before airing your dirty laundry in such a way.

Even though research does show that sharing emotional events improves your interpersonal communication and social support system, it’s important to remember that what you post on your blog can be seen by not only your followers, but the rest of the world, too.

A study done by the CyberPsychology and Behavior research firm indicated that having an audience more than ten people to share your thoughts with does improve your overall quality of life, and can help with coping with stressful life events (such as divorce). However, even though your audience is unlikely to pass it on to your ex-husband, that doesn’t mean he can’t come read it. Even if it doesn’t, you may have children that can. Even if they don’t, you may have future employers, spouses, and friends who may seek your blog innocently and wind up reading something that changes their mind about you, even if everything you wrote about was completely temporary as far as your feelings go. In some cases, what you write online may actually come back to haunt you in court, especially if you have any upcoming custody battles.

Don’t feel bad about expressing how you feel, but make sure you do it in a way that’s appropriate while you’re getting divorced. A good support group can do wonders, as can a good friend and a cup of coffee. If you feel like you need more emotional support, a good divorce counselor can be just what the doctor ordered. However, if you need more help getting through the divorce as quickly as possible, don’t hesitate to contact a quality Bakersfield lawyer for your needs.

Remember, we’re all about families here at Carbone, and we can help make your life more suitable during and after divorce.