If you are honestly considering a divorce in California, there are just a few things you need to consider before beginning legal divorce discussions. Divorce is a big step in anyone’s life, and it should never be taken lightly. So before you approach a lawyer for legal assistance, make sure you have all of your ducks in a row by doing the following.

Speak to a Professional Counselor

Having a friend to talk to and get advice from when you’re considering divorce in California is a good thing. However, if you’re still considering a divorce, it’s important to talk to someone who has the insight and experience to resolve your marital differences. If both of you still want to remain married, then no marriage is truly lost until your differences are too overwhelming to bear. Divorce counseling can help rebuild your relationship before you choose to end it.

Stay in Your Marital Home

Until your divorce proceedings have begun, it’s important to stay in your marital home unless there is abuse of you or your children happening. If you move out early, the state of California considers this in court, and you may not be able to receive your full alimony amount. In some cases, you will not be able to return to the home until the courts have decided what property goes to whom, which can take up to eight months.

Make Sure Your Assets are Protected

Anything from a computer to a car is liable to be liquidated and split during a divorce. Make sure that the items you want to use, such as car or household items, are properly protected and those you wish to be liquidated are not.


The Law Office of Robert F. Carbone is an experienced family law attorney in Bakersfield. Please contact our office today for a free initial consultation.